tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3911650810195930315.post1188747380444641144..comments2023-07-01T11:28:38.359-04:00Comments on Sex Ed Transforms: Safe Space REMIX: Ground Rules for Dance PartiesMimi Arbeit, PhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06184488883636767441noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3911650810195930315.post-76955422299986248282012-06-26T00:04:54.034-04:002012-06-26T00:04:54.034-04:00I agree, this is great.
One thing that's VERY...I agree, this is great.<br /><br />One thing that's VERY important to me, and is one of the major reasons why dance parties tend to make me uncomfortable, is the tendency to sexualize that sort of dancing - and, by extension, the people doing it. On the rare occasions when I dance to pop music, I'm not doing it to be "sexy"; I'm doing it because it feels good and freeing to move my body. But I end up not moving my body as freely as I'd like to because I'm constantly afraid of getting sexualizing looks or comments, which feel extremely violating to me. So when I'm at a dance party, I'm almost always either dancing in a restrained fashion, or not dancing at all.<br /><br />I would LOVE to see something on there (maybe under the "sex-positivity" bullet) about not assuming sexuality on the part of other dancers. In other words: as part of respecting the ways in which other people are enjoying their own bodies, keeping in mind that not everyone may intend their dancing to have sexual overtones, and might not be comfortable with others viewing their dancing in that way. Also, not making sexualizing comments about other people unless you know they'll be okay with it. Having those ground rules in place (along with the others you've listed here) would go a LONG way toward making me feel comfortable in a space that, in my experience, has mostly been very UNsafe for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3911650810195930315.post-11699715332315334752012-06-25T23:09:03.244-04:002012-06-25T23:09:03.244-04:00This is great, Mims. I'm trying to think of ot...This is great, Mims. I'm trying to think of other things that feel important to me... I guess consent to "dance with" someone should not be taken as consent to grind. That has always been my biggest complaint.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02018947989976166349noreply@blogger.com